Let's Talk "Cry It Out"
So here we go… I had NO idea that “crying it out” was so controversial, and I had NO idea how freaking painful it is to hear your child cry it out.
So Jack has never been the best sleeper so when he hit his 4 month sleep regression I was dying on a whole other level. I had no idea that I could function (barely) on 2 hours of sleep. I mean this guy was waking up every 2 hours to nurse and I was at a loss for what to do.
So, I did what any new mom does, I asked my friends on facebook. I can’t tell you how many PM’s I got sharing their tactics for this bizarre phrase called “sleep training”, um WTF I had NEVER heard of that before!
I think that as a mom it’s freaking crucial to sleep train, I mean it saved my LIFE. Like imagine having a mental/nervous breakdown from lack of sleep at least 3 times a week. That was me. That was hard on my family and I just COULDN’T, anymore.
After talking to lots of girlfriends who had gone through this I bought the books, I bought wine and I was ready to let him cry and do the sleep training.
Have you listened to your baby cry bloody murder? OMG it was awful, I was crying just as hard as Jack.
Now I know there are LOTS of opinions out there on what is right and what is best. I am just sharing what worked for us and speaking for all the moms who went this route as well.
If there is one thing I have learned as a mom it’s that you have to do what is right for you and feels comfortable for you.
So we created our bedtime routine which is the three B’s: Bath, boobs and bed! Always beginning at the same time each night. According to Julie Wright, a psychotherapist who specializes in babies and Heather Turgeon, who specializes in child development, "one of the best ways to help your baby sleep is to set an early and consistent bedtime between 7pm and 7:30pm". -The Happy Sleeper
This was magical for me because Jack is fussy by 5:45pm so we start bath time at 6pm and he's asleep by 6:30pm, which gives me a break!!!!! Praise Jesus mommy needs some time to herself! Yes, I know that's not 7pm but my little guy can't make it that long, every baby is different.
In a few nights he was out once he hit his crib mattress and I was relieved but also happy that he had a healthy schedule and routine to cue him it was time to sleep.
Then I go to bed…
AND HE IS STILL WAKING UP EVERY 2 HOURS TO BE WITH ME/ NURSE. I am dead at this point.
So I talked with my pediatrician and she told me he was chunky enough (over 15 pounds) and old enough and in a whisper voice leaned in and said, “you can let him cry it out when he wakes up if you want. It will take 3 nights”. I looked at her with tears in my eyes and I knew I was IN.
So I talked with my husband and we agreed on the 3 nights, and sure enough it worked.
For the first time in 6 months I slept for more than 2 hours at a time.
I know you know how HUGE this is.
I have some friends who I LOVE who would never dream of letting their baby cry it out, but girl, I had to do what I had to do.
I would love to hear your story and your thoughts on this subject. I think we can all learn some tricks and tips from each other. I know it’s a little controversial but I think it’s such a fascinating and important discussion to have as a mom, or in my case a brand new mom who was totally lost!
Jack is now sleeping for 10-11 hours straight! Yep, that's real life and it's freaking amazing.