I am SO excited about this month's Modern Mama, Jessica Davis. Jessica is an advocate and bad ass warrior for sensitive food allergy awareness. Her son Dylan is freaking adorable and she's an amazing blogger over at thesensitiveeatslife.com. I love her take on motherhood and her her use of swear words. Let's get right into it shall we!!
TMM: Introduce yourself: What’s your name, the name of your kid(s), and where are you from, and what is your business?
Jessica: I’m Jess and my son’s name is Dylan. We are from Orange County and I grew up in Irvine. It was known as ‘the bubble’ when I was a child [I’m pretty sure that most people refer to their hometown as ‘the bubble’] but this was truly a small bubble of cookie-cutter homes and bougie housemoms. Where I grew up in the late 80’s there were orange fields in the back of my house, a creek, and I lived in a gated community. Most, if not all of it, is now newly developed homes, big flashy parks, and supermarkets. Very suburban! Funny thing is, I grew up and now live in Lake Forest [in one of those new development homes LOL] where all the houses look the same, we have big flashy parks, and the Mom’s are super awesome. I work for ASICS America in Learning and Development; I love my job and love that I work. I also write a blog called The Sensitive Eats Life (pretty sure I’m changing the name soon LOL) and somehow I make things all come together.
TMM: How has becoming a mom changed you?
Jessica: If you asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, my response would be “A Mom’; then I became one. I then started to think “What the hell was I thinking and why would anyone ever want to do this?”. Being a Mom has changed me in ways I never would have thought to be possible. I hated it at first, actually for a long time, and then I made peace with the idea. I had a rough go of it in the start and have been thrown shit storm after shit storm in the Mom/Kid department. From severe postpartum depression (real stuff) to a child with multiple severe food allergies and so many things in between. I think being a Mom has changed me and made me see how strong I truly am. I also have a newfound appreciation for myself that I never thought possible. Being a Mom is challenging and ever changing. There are some day I feel like I’m screwing up, but most days I am proud of what kind of Mom I am.
TMM: How do you stay connected to yourself while still being a full time mom?
Jessica: I don’t. There is no peace, there is no quiet, there is only go, go, go. I’m still trying to figure out how to stay connected with just me. LOL
TMM: Red or White wine?
Jessica: I prefer Red. I’m actually slightly allergic to white, but I drink it anyway. I have wine delivered to my house from Nakedwines.com and it’s like christmas in my house. I can’t contain my excitement for the variety I get.
TMM: What’s something that you are grateful for since becoming a mother?
Jessica: I’m grateful for my husband. He has always been involved and hands on. There were days I just couldn’t find the strength to be a person and he swooped in without skipping a beat. He’s always been my prince. I can’t imagine having to do this parenting thing without him. I am also grateful for some of the friends I’ve acquired along the way. You can’t imagine the love you feel when people around you want your son to be included and safe just as much as you do. It’s awe-inspiring. I am grateful for epinephrine and doctors. Its terrifying calling 9-1-1 for your child but when you do, your so grateful for the person on the other end that picked up your call no matter how much they yell at you to pull it together.
TMM: What’s one trick or tip someone’s given you that you could share with the TMM community.
Jessica: I actually didn’t have much help outside of my husband and it was really hard. I can tell you that the thing I’ve learned is that you can’t be so hard on yourself or your choices. Be open and honest with people, accept help, and don’t be afraid to share that you don’t have your shit together. No one does! If they look like they do, they probably truly don’t. Being a parent is hard and scary; you learn as you go and it’s okay to screw up. As long as you love your baby and yourself at the end of the day, nothing else matters.
TMM: What could you be caught wearing most days?
Jessica: Well, I work- LOL. However, I work for an athletic company. My hair in mostly up, I’m always in jeans, and I love my lipstick!
TMM: How long were you in labor with your baby(s)
Jessica: I was induced. I was born with a congenital heart defect and had a high risk pregnancy so they wanted to monitor me closely. I walked into Labor and Delivery and wasn’t dilated at all at 38 weeks. They used a foley bag to get me to 4 cm [which was the most terrible feeling I’ve ever felt] at 2am. I was induced with pitocin at 12pm the next day and much to the disbelief of the doctors I had a 2.5 hour labor and a 30 minute delivery, he was out at 3pm
TMM: What is one thing you do to keep a healthy lifestyle?
Jessica: Eat healthy. We don’t eat gluten or eggs and seriously cut down on dairy. We also don’t use nuts, peanuts, oats, corn, fish, or shellfish in our cooking [which isn’t necessarily healthy or not, it just is]. Plus Pilates and Yoga are my go to workout styles.
TMM: What is one thing you did as a teenager that you hope your kid(s) won’t do LOL?
Jessica: I was actually a great teenager and I wasn’t by any means a “bad kid”. I didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, and didn’t disobey my parents. I had a mouth - and actually still do LOL. I wasn’t sleeping around or skipping class. I was however, the person who stood up for things when I felt injustice or wrongdoing, I yelled at teachers and parents if they were disrespectful, I actively stood up and out against bullying and I did my very best to include everyone. I hope my son is the same way and I am actually nervous that he won't be. I don’t mind the ‘bad kid’ stuff at all, it just wasn’t for me. For Dylan, it would be more that he is aware enough to make the right choices for his health concerns. He will never be able to have beer, among other things, and I hope he has enough strength to stay aware, alert, and make good choices.
TMM: At TMM we believe that self-care is right up there with breathing. So, what do you do to make sure you are taking care of you?
Jessica: I see doctors and believe in modern medicine as well as alternatives. I love oils. I eat well. I take vitamins. I use premium gluten free and vegan products for skin/beauty products. I make sure to take time to breath. I communicate almost to fault and I make sure that everyone knows when things aren’t ok in my world. I keep close friends close and make sure to love the people I hold dear.
TMM: What’s your favorite bag?
Jessica: I actually have a purse fetish but the ‘purse’ I’m currently using is the fjallraven kanken backpack (in grey) LOL.
TMM: What’s your favorite curse word?
Jessica: Cee U Next Tuesday - It’s always been my favorite and I freely use it whenever I can. I use FUCK more often but the C word is my go to when I really need to describe something well. I don’t find it to be “disgusting’ as most people do; in fact I find words like the "p" word to be much more disgusting. Cee U Next Tuesday is the way to go, I think its cut throat, its descriptive, and it’s powerful.
TMM: What is one beauty tip or trick you love?
Jessica: Finish your eyebrows and don’t forget lipstick! Eyebrows are like the drapes, shades or shutters to your eyes and lipstick is that POP your face needs. They are the finishing touches to any look or sometimes all you need to look alive.
TMM: Anything else you care to share about motherhood or supporting women in general…?
Jessica: Being a Mom is fucking hard! Just be you and try to love yourself more. You’re doing a great job; stop being hard on yourself.
Ok Mamas you have to check out this gluten-free vegetable soup recipe by clicking HERE! Just sub veggie broth instead of chicken broth for a vegan and gluten free vegetable soup you will die over.